She was extremely beautiful. ‘Abdullah ibn Abu Bakr as Sideeq married her, he loved her so much that she overwhelmed him, he was occupied with her to the point that he did not participate in any of the battles, so his father ordered him to divorce her saying: ‘She has occupied you from the battles so divorce her.
So ‘Abdullah said:
“They say divorce her and bring in her place,
someone who would make my me long to dream.
Indeed my separation from Ahl al Bayt,
is due to excessively being with someone magnificent.
His father insisted until he divorced her. One day his father passed by him and heard him reciting:
‘I shall never forget you as long as the sun keeps rising,
and as long as the moonlight covers the confined pigeons.
My heart turns to you every day and every night,
with the hidden affairs that souls are attached to.
I have never seen the likes of me divorce the likes of her,
nor have I seen the likes of her divorced without fault.
She has beautiful manners, is of sound judgment and nobility,
she is beautiful, shy and truthful.’
So his father softened his stance and permitted him to take her back. He said to her:
‘Indeed I divorced you without a doubt,
I resorted to an affair that had to come to pass.
Likewise is Allah’s decree, it comes and goes,
upon the people with unity and separation.
My heart continues to be perturbed due to our separation,
but is at ease for what Allah has brought close.
It gives you the tidings that I find no displeasure in it,
and indeed all good traits have been gathered and perfected in you.
That indeed you have a face that Allah has beautified,
and a face that is beautified by Allah cannot bear any flaws.’
‘Abdullah then participated in the battle of Taa-if with the Messenger of Allah - صلى الله عليه وسلم – and was struck with a spear and later died in Madeenah, ‘Aatikah recited mourning him:
‘I suffered the loss of the best of people after their Messenger,
and Abu Bakr, he was not neglectful.
So I took a pledge upon myself, that my sorrow for him,
shall not detach itself from me, nor the dust from my skin.
For who has seen the likes of such a young man,
who was more energized, heated up and patient in battle.
when the spear head entered him he took it,
to death, until the spear became red.’
‘Umar ibn al Khataab then married her and had a Waleemah where he invited a group of people including ‘Alee ibn Abi Taalib who said:
‘O leader of the believers, let me speak to ‘Aatikah.’
‘Umar responded: ‘You may do so.’
So he stood beside the door and said to her: ‘Where is your saying:
‘So I took a pledge upon myself, that my sorrow for him,
shall not detach itself from me, nor the dust from my skin. ‘
So she started crying and ‘Umar said to him: ‘What caused you to do that O Abul Hasan, all women do this.’
He responded: ‘Allah said:
O you who believe! Why do you say that which you do not do? Most hateful it is with Allah that you say that which you do not do.
[As Saff: 2-3]
She always used to attend the prayers in congregation, and she made it a condition upon ‘Umar to let her do so.
When ‘Umar was murdered she recited in mourning:
‘The abundant tears in my eyes and my crying,
are not sufficient for the Imam.
Tell the people of distress and misery to die,
death has given him to drink from the cup of nations.’
Az Zubayr ibn ‘Awaam then married her with the same condition that she be allowed to pray in congregation.
She used to go to the Masjid at night and he used to dislike that, she was a woman of excellent mannerisms, when she prepared herself to go the Masjid he would say:
‘By Allah you are going out while I dislike that.’
So she would say:
‘You may disallow me and I will stay.’
He would respond:
‘How could I do that when you stipulated that I don’t prohibit you from praying in the Masjid.’
So she left one night to the prayer and he left after her, he overtook her and waited for her in a dark place on her way to the Masjid. When she passed by he touched her body, she returned home practicing Tasbeeh and stopped going out after that. He said to her:
‘How come you do not go to the Masjid anymore?’
She responded: ‘O Abu ‘Abdullah, the people have become corrupt.’
He said: ‘It was me who did that.’
She responded: ‘Aren’t other people able to do what you have done?’
She never went out again until he was killed [in the battle of al Jamal], she also mourned him and recited a poem.
‘Alee ibn Abi Taalib then proposed to her. She sent to him saying: ‘I will refrain O cousin of the Messenger - صلى الله عليه و سلم – for fear that you will be killed.’
It was also said that ‘Amru ibn al ‘Aas and Muhammad ibn Abu Bakr also proposed to her but she refused.
Al Hasan ibn ‘Alee then married her and passed away while she was still alive, he was the last of her husbands and Allah knows best.
Notice how if a woman was widowed or divorced, the Sahaabah would not leave her in that state, they would propose to her regardless of her age or the number of her children, and the examples of this amongst the Sahaabah, may Allah be pleased with them, are many.
Note: Translating Arabic poetry is difficult as a stanza may carry a number of meanings, should you find an error or a better translation, please don’t hesitate to inform us.
وإن فراقي أهل بيت جمعتهم ... على كثر مني لإحدى العظائم
فعزم عليه أبوه حتى طلقها فسمعه أبو بكر يوما وهو يقول
أعاتك لا أنساك ما ذر شارق ... وما ناح قمري الحمام المطوق
أعاتك قلبي كل يوم وليلة ... إليك بما تخفي النفوس معلق
ولم أر مثلي طلق اليوم مثلها ... ولا مثلها من غير جرم تطلق
لها خلق جزل ورأي ومنصب ... وخلق سوى في الحياة ومصدق
فرق له أبوه فأذن له في مراجتها، فراجعها فقال حين ارتجعها
أعاتك قد طلقت في غير ريبة ... وروجعت للأمر الذي هو كائن
كذلك أمر الله غاد ورائح ... على الناس فيه ألفة وتباين
وما زال قلبي للتفرق طائرا ... وقلبي لما قد قرب الله ساكن
ليهنك أني لا أرى فيه سخطة ... وأنك قد تمت عليك المحاسن
وأنك ممن زين الله وجهه ... وليس لوجه زانه الله شائن
ثم شهد عبد الله الطائف مع رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم فرمي بسهم فمات منه بالمدينة فقالت عاتكة ترثيه :
رزئت بخير الناس بعد نبيهم ... وبعد أبي بكر وما كان قصرا
فآليت لا تنفك عيني حزينة ... عليك ولا ينفك جلدي أغبرا
فلله عينا من رأى مثله فتى ... أكر وأحمى في الهياج وأصبرا
إذا شرعت فيه الأسنة خاضها ... إلى الموت حتى يترك الرمح أحمرا
فتزوجها عمر بن الخطاب فأولم عليها فدعا جمعا فيهم علي بن أبي طالب فقال : يا أمير المؤمنين دعني أكلم عاتكة . قال : فافعل . فأخذ بجانبي الباب وقال : يا عدية نفسها أين قولك :
فآليت لا تنفك عيني حزينة ... عليك ولا ينفك جلدي أغبرا
فبكت فقال عمر : ما دعاك إلى هذا يا أبا الحسن كل النساء يفعلن هذا
فقال : قال الله تعالى
يا أيها الذين أمنوا لم تقولون ما لا تفعلون كبر مقتا عند الله أن تقولوا ما لا تفعلون
فقتل عنها عمر فقالت ترثيه :
عين جودي بعبرة ونحيب ... لا تملي على الامام النحيب
قل لأهل الضراء والبؤس : موتوا ... قد سقته المنون كأس شعوب
ثم تزوجها الزبير بن العوام.وكان الزبير شرط ألا يمنعها من المسجد وكانت تخرج إلى المسجد ليلا وكان يكره مخرجها ويتحرج من منعها وكانت امرأة خليقة فكانت إذا تهيأت إلى الخروج للصلاة قال لها : والله إنك لتخرجين وإني لكاره فتقول : فامنعني فأجلس فيقول كيف وقد شرطت لك ألا أفعل
فخرجت ليلة إلى المسجد وخرج الزبير فسبقها إلى مظلم من طريقها فوضع يده على بعض جسدها فرجعت تسبح ثم لم تخرج بعد ذلك فقال لها الزبير: مالك لا تخرجين إلى المسجد؟ قالت: يا أبا عبد الله فسد الناس؛ فقال: أنا فعلت ذلك؛ فقالت: أليس بقدر غيرك يفعل مثله؟ فلم تخرج حتى قتل عنها الزبير، فرثته بأبيات
ثم خطبها علي بن أبي طالب، فقالت: إني أضن بك يا بن عم رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم عن القتل، ويقال: خطبها عمرو بن العاص ومحمد ابن أبي بكر فامتنعت عليهما.